3 Ways to Keep a Bad Moment From Ruining Your Day
A Bad Moment
We’ve all been there, right?
Swimming along, staying in our own lane, when something happens and our forward momentum stops.
Our good day disappears like smoke on the wind.
Enter the bad day.
This is caused by anything from major to minor; being transparent here, it’s generally something so incredibly minor I’m hard-pressed to remember what caused my day to go off the rails.
A telling sign that I’m a mother and have children who insist on bombarding me before I’ve had a chance to shake off the sleep fog; there are days when this moment happens even before I get out of bed.
Other times I might pat myself on the back for the great day we’ve had, and then bedtime becomes my unraveling.
You know the drill. The kids refuse to brush their teeth, or are running back and forth in the kitchen after repeated reminders about the house rules.
These bad moments happen without warning. Each time I promise myself that I won’t let it ruin my day.
That’s often easier said than done.
So what can we do to fight against these itty-bitty day destroyers?
Stop Dwelling on What Was Wrong
Those itty-bitty day destroyers only have the power we give them. Focusing on what we did wrong, what we missed, the way we reacted; those things sap our energy.
I’ve always been an overachiever when it comes to tearing apart everything I’ve ever done. I’ll analyze each action and reaction for the flaws I know are there. Then I’ll dwell on what I could have, should have, would have done better.
You know, if I were perfect.
The problem with this course of action? It’s inherently flawed. I can never be perfect. No one can be. We were born into a sinful world, and we’re sinful beings.
This said, we need to change our focus.
We must accept that we’re imperfect humans, that we’ve already been forgiven for our sinfulness by a perfect and loving God.
Then we face the next moments with joy and peace.
Remember to Be Thankful for the Good and the Bad
When the good-day feelings vanish with the onslaught of those itty-bitty day destroyers, it’s difficult to be thankful.
The good mood has vanished, and the last thing on my mind is giving thanks to God for anything at all. Let alone giving thanks for that itty-bitty day destroyer that just wrecked my flow, and proved just how flawed and imperfect I am as a person–let alone a parent.
This is exactly when we need to be thankful.
It’s easy to be thankful when everything is going smoothly. When the kids are being those oh-so-perfect (and totally unrealistic) children of our imaginings. It gets much more difficult when chaos is running the ship.
When everything is going wrong, and the itty-bitty day destroyers have taken over, that is the most important time to be thankful.
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.1 Thessalonians 5:18
Our wonderful God knows exactly what we’re going through, and He isn’t leaving us to struggle during these moments of struggle. He is right there with us.
Be thankful for that.
Those struggles we’re facing–the screaming, crying, negativity–they’re building us up and making us stronger for the days ahead.
Be thankful for that.
Then be thankful when everything has calmed down, and there are smiles and laughter again.
3 Ways to Overcome a Bad Day
Prayer is always the answer. No matter what the question might be–pray. It can never hurt, and it will always help.
Turning to God in prayer and praise is like talking to your best friend and you father at the same time. You know the goodness and wisdom He shares has been proven time and again through thousands of years.
You’ve seen it in your own life, and the lives of others around you.
He brings you the comfort you need, while you wallow in the negative emotions you’re feeling.
Then He gently reminds you that He also suffered, and that there will be bad times, but they won’t last.
You’re not alone, and with His love and guidance you’ll get up and move through the rest of your day with the joy that only His love and redemption can provide you.
After you’ve prayed, rejoice.
Sing a Hallelujah song, raise your hands in the air and rejoice in God’s love.
Your sinfulness has been forgiven.
You’re loved beyond reason.
You’ve got a whole day, or another day, to do better.
Rejoice that you can learn from your mistakes.
Even if it’s strained and hard to manage–smile.
Let your children see you smile.
Smile at them.
When you speak to them, make sure you smile.
A smile can go a long way to changing the outcome of a day.
It can do a lot to mend fences and bring back the joy and happiness those itty-bitty day destroyers tried to steal from your family.
Something to Think About
The next time you feel like your entire day has been ruined, consider three think that have blessed you that day.
Something to Pray
You alone know the struggles I’m facing. May the Holy Spirit fill me with joy and gladness, that I may be thankful for each up and down throughout our day.
In Your Glorious Name,
Until next time,
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