Filling Your Cup: Mom Approved Ideas for Daily Self-Care
Mothers Need to be Serious About Self-Care
As a momma of four, self-care is something I’m focusing on in my own life. It’s a habit I’m not always great at, but I keep trying.
I’m a work in progress.
Motherhood is a full time job; only unlike full-time jobs in the corporate world there aren’t vacation days, sick leave, or someone leaving donuts in the staff lounge.
The hours of motherhood are long–so very long– that finding time to go to the bathroom without a little one cheering,”Go Momma! You tinkled in the potty!”, is nearly impossible.
For these reasons, among others, mothers desperately need to make time for ourselves.
We need to carve out pockets of time to take care of ourselves, because we can’t take care of our little ones (or our husbands and homes) if we have nothing left.
“You can’t pour from an empty cup.”Someone really smart
How to Make Time For Yourself
One of the hardest parts about taking time to recharge ourselves, is finding the time in our lives.
Between co-op, Awana, and Homeschool PE–not to mention planning and cooking healthy meals, cleaning the house, enriching the lives of my children through good books, and making sure those same children don’t suddenly decide they’re Superman and can fly from the roof of our house; there isn’t a lot of time left for me.
Especially when I still have a one year old who needs his nap-time snuggles, and to be perfectly honest, I need those snuggles too.
Things Were Getting Crazy, and By Things, I Mean Me.
For years the only self-care I was getting were from my daily home work out programs. I remember patting myself on the back thinking, I’m so smart taking this time for myself. This self-care stuff is simple.
There was a small problem with my thinking.
Self-care is more than just working out.
It’s more than a thirty minute sweat session. Especially if during that thirty minutes your mind isn’t focused on the moves, but on something else. It also doesn’t work if your children break your focus every few minutes.
I was getting into shape because I was working out daily, and I was paying attention to what I was fueling my body with, but I wasn’t feeling any more filled.
My mind and body felt depleted all the time, and I was not filling my children with loving attention.
Something Had to Give
When I finally realized I needed more in my life than a daily fitness routine, I started looking for other things to enrich my life. The problem with this was that I still didn’t have any extra time.
So, I started by cutting out extraneous things that didn’t bring me joy.
The first thing to go was Facebook. Suddenly I had a lot of extra time that I didn’t have before, but I wasn’t done cutting things out yet.
I’m quite a perfectionist, and that is a time consuming personality. In the last year I’ve focused on letting things go, of getting rid of this time eater. I’ve done this in small ways like: not worrying so much about the toys in the living room, or the unfolded blankets on the couch and chairs.
These little things led to other things that have made time-management easier. Like the printable in this post.
What Can You Cut Out of Your Schedule?
Before you go any further, take a moment to list the things you do throughout the day. This includes running errands, making meals, being a taxi, and scrolling through social media.
In case you were wondering, the time you spend binge watching Netflix also counts.
Once you’ve listed the things you do each day, decide what things you can cut out or at least down.
It’s important for us as mothers to make the time, not just wait for it to appear.
I know mindlessly scrolling through social media may help us check-out for a few minutes, but trust me, you’ll thank yourself if you cut it back so you have time for some real self-care.
Sare Approved Self-Care Ideas
Below is a list of just a handful of self-care ideas that are possible in short amounts of time. Things that have personally helped me to better focus on filling my tank, so that I can better fill my children and husband with love.:
- Time in the Word.
- Reading personal development books (Here are a few recommendations)
- Reading a great novel
- Enjoying a cup of tea or cocoa on the porch
- Get moving (at home workouts bring a personal trainer straight to you, and for a time that works for you!)
- Get a massage
- Get your nails done (or do them yourself)
- Take a long shower or bath
- Stretch your body daily
- Drink at least half you body weight in water daily
- Try a new make-up technique
- Wash your face
- Crank up worship music and praise God
- Enjoy a special treat. We have an amazing cupcake bakery near us, and I love going there and indulging in a gourmet cupcake.
- Get enough sleep (this one is super important)
- Eat a balanced diet. Remember fat is NOT bad for you. Stay away from things that claim they’re “low fat”.
- Listen to a podcast. Mama Bear Apologetics has a great one. So does Million Praying Moms.
- Go out for coffee with a friend (and leave your phones on silent in your purse).
- Journal, color, or create.
Obviously, this isn’t an exhaustive list, but I do hope it has given you some ideas of how you can add some much needed self-care into your life.
In the comment section, please add any other self-care ideas you have tried or want to try. I’d love to add to this list in the future.
Until next time,